Breakup Advice

Can research data help you stop a break up?

That is a fascinating question raised by this interesting piece, which many people are tweeting about and sharing links to in the last couple of days:

Amazing Facts About Facebook and Breakups

Basically, writer and designer David McCandless – author of Information is Beautiful – scanned thousands of Facebook status updates, seeking patterns regarding when people’s relationships most often break up. And he found some very specific patterns.

While the patterns are interesting in themselves, what may be most interesting are the questions they raise about how we can use this kind of information. For example, if we know there are times that we are most likely to breakup, can we then do something to change that pattern for the better?

I think it’s very possible, but may require more insight on why people break up during these periods. Are these breakups that were inevitable and just seem to have their last straw broken at those specific times? Or are these relationships that, if they were able to get through those pivotal times, could then go on to be more successful?

It seems we don’t yet know the answers to these questions. But this very interesting study raises a lot of possibilities for becoming conscious of relationship patterns and using that awareness to act more wisely and intentionally – and perhaps to stop a break up altogether.

How can we stop a break up from happening? This is a question that many visitors to this site will surely have. Along with discussions of situations where breakups are inevitable and of getting over a broken heart after a break up, we will also be addressing this question of how to prevent breakups or save marriage from divorce in the first place.

This discussion will include two main aspects:

• Preventative methods to be put in place to build a strong relationship that is less likely to even reach the brink of a breakup
• Emergency measures to take when a relationship is currently on the brink of a breakup

The bottom line is that yes, you can, in many cases, stop a break up. This doesn’t mean, however, that you always should stop a break up. Some relationship situations truly are best resolved by a breakup.

Our goal is to help you handle whatever relationship challenges arise in the most optimal way possible. If you do this, then you may still end up breaking up, but likely with much less regret than if you did so impulsively without first taking some important steps. In addition, even if you do break up after these measures, you will have learned valuable lessons that can help you avoid repeating the same pattern in your next relationship.

But we also believe that if you apply these measures, and your relationship is one with potential that has simply run into a difficult test, you can pass that test and stop a break up and even go on to create a relationship more fulfilling than before.