Breakup Advice

Why another website about breakup advice?

The time frames surrounding breakups – whether before, when you are on the verge of or considering one, during the actual breakup or after the breakup – can be very vulnerable periods. It can take support to optimally survive them. But they are also incredibly teachable moments, full of discoveries that can ultimately improve your life.

I know. Throughout my life, I’ve been through several breakups. Each one was painful – some more than others. And each time, I made it through thanks to the support and wisdom that I found in a variety of places. In fact, because of these resources, each breakup brought me more insight about myself, my partner or ex-partner, relationships and life.

Believe it or not, but if you choose your responses carefully, you may look back on your breakup as the best thing that ever happened to you. And even if the aftermath doesn’t turn out quite that rosy, applying certain strategies and tools can still help you glean as many benefits as possible from your breakup.

This website will aim to help you do just that by:

• Offering a variety of ideas and resources to support you through the pain of the times surrounding a breakup
• Offering insights that can help you distill important lessons from your pain – lessons that can help you both during and long after the breakup (and possibly improve your relationship in the event that you stay in or return to it

I’m sure that many will come to this website with hopes of improving or restoring their relationship with the person that they are considering breaking up with or have broken up with. At times, I will certainly offer thoughts on how to do just that. But I also hope that the lessons you learn here at the periods close to a separation will serve you well regardless of whether you end up back together with your partner

There are many websites and resources offering breakup advice. Some of them, which I’ve alluded to, are great and I will share many of those with you over time. But there are also many that offer superficial advice and temporary quick fixes that ultimately only postpone problems.

This site will be different. Of course, when there truly are quick fixes that work, I will share those. But, as is so often true in life, there are sometimes no shortcuts without a steep price. That’s why this site will aim, instead, to help you gain deeper and more lasting insights by delving into the fundamental issues surrounding breakups, such as:

• The underlying purpose of romantic relationships
• How our intimate relationships tie into deeper issues stemming from our childhoods and our families
• Why we are attracted to certain people so much more strongly than others
•  Why separation and breakup can hurt so badly, even when we know that the relationship was bad for us or that we are overreacting

Although it may, at times, be uncomfortable to consider these deeper issues, I believe that, in the long run, it will be worthwhile.

In fact, I think that these issues are so important and relevant that I hope even people not currently involved in a breakup – whether singles seeking healthier relationships or people hoping to improve their current relationships – will still find this site interesting and useful.

So thanks for visiting Breakup Advice. I hope you’ll check back here often, subscribe, and/or write in with topics you’d like to hear more about.